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Hard Love vs. Soft Love


Many people remember a wooden spoon, or their moms flip flop and a flood of negative memories invade their mind of times where they got a good hiding. However, not all of us can recall the time our parents left our buttocks a little bruised. There is lots a debate on how strict is too strict and when is a good time to let a child understand their wrongs by making their own mistakes. There are positives and negatives of having more involved and harsher parents. Stephanie Stein and Lillian J Breckenridge describe “[a]uthoritarian parents have a rigid set of absolute standards for child behavior that are strictly enforced, often through physical punishment” (Parenting Styles). By enforcing strong rules and circumstances to bad behavior, a child with has strict parents may have traits that a child with more relaxed parent might not. A child with strict parents knows how to get work done because their parents made sure they did what they needed when raising them.  However having parents that do not encourage self-growth and originality can have negative effects on a child growth and hinder success in the future.
Thinking creatively and practically is something one has to do with no involvement from others. Children who grow up with stricter parents lose a sense of individuality and struggle to think for themselves. Martin Pinquart states “parental encouragement of the child’s individual expression and decision making, such as allowing the child to make choices about activities and behavior, and encouraging the development of independence” (Associations of Parenting Dimensions and Styles). Stricter parents are more involved, which can tend to hold back a child from success. If someone is constantly telling their child what to do and how to do it, the child may not know when to do a task without the instruction of their parents. With relaxed parents a child is forced to think for themselves, which encourages self discipline. It is important for a child to be able to push the rules a little and open their minds to new experiences with a creative mindset and parents who encourage a warm environment help build this mentality.

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